When is it too soon to get excited?
What happens when you meet a guy and he seems
like he has it all? He’s gorgeous, clever, attentive and interesting! You think
you have it all! You meet this guy and he is drop dead gorgeous, you get lucky
and go on a date with him, maybe a second one if you are extremely lucky and
then you realize not only this guy is hot, he has a great character as well……
Ding Ding Ding! You just hit the jackpot! …. Hmmm? Maybe too soon? Well this is
my story with Chris. One of my readers asked me to write a post about getting
excited with a guy too soon and Chris fits the purpose of this topic perfectly!
I met Chris one day, first thing in the
morning when I woke up! I found him in my corridor trying to fix something in
the house. You can imagine my surprise when, on my way to the bathroom,
somewhere between yawning and trying to keep my eyes open, I found someone in
the corridor that looks like Leonardo Dicaprio. I froze (and mid-yawn might I
add! Not very attractive!). I completely forgot we had someone coming that
morning and my flatmate had let him in apparently. By the time he said ‘Goodmorning’
I realized my mouth was still hanging open! As you realize there was no way I
would let that guy out of my house without at least exchanging phone numbers,
so after I washed my face, brushed my teeth and put on some proper clothes (I
was wearing teddy bear Pjs!) I offered him a cup of coffee and started chatting
him up. We exchanged phone numbers and five days later we were on our first
date. He came and picked me up with his
car and we drove around, he showed me around the area and we ended up somewhere in
Greenwich for a beer. I couldn't believe it, he was great! He was intelligent,
well-educated, slightly older (28), had a lot of great stories to tell and so
on and so forth. Ok I will say one flaw that I saw from the very first moment
(even though I wanted to think of him as perfect then!) : he was full of
himself. But at the moment I thought everyone has flaws, being overconfident it’s
not necessarily a bad thing. Well, it turns out it was in this case, so keep
reading!
By the end of the night, I was sure I had a
crush! I couldn't remember when the last time I had a crush was; I was probably
12, and even then it was the cliché crush on a high-school teacher, which I
soon grew out of and was too embarrassed about it to admit it to anyone! It
was like I was 12 again, I had
butterflies in my stomach and I was smiling like an idiot to myself the whole
night before I went to bed, not to mention thinking about him until I fell
asleep! Even though I had the crush of a 12-year old, I knew better than to
text him the next day or the day after, I waited the well-known-by now 48-hour
rule, and then when I was contemplating whether to text him or not, my crush
texted me! We started talking, and there's no need to mention I was smiling at my phone
the entire time and I swear my heart skipped a bit every time I received a text
from him! Well, before I knew it we were on a second and third date, and it was
all going great; I was getting an adrenaline rush every time I saw him and I
felt like flying every time he texted me. Well… this was soon to change!
One night while my crush and I were having a
glass of wine at my place (and I was thinking this is the night!! Wink, wink)
we were talking about a new bar that he went to, the week before, when his
sentence suddenly begun with “Gloria was with me and she liked it too”. I took a moment to think about who Gloria
was; I don’t think he ever mentioned her before, and he had mentioned most of
his family members and friends in London. So of course I looked at him skeptically
and said with great hesitation “Gloria…?”. By that moment I hoped she would
turn out to be his long-lost sister that he just found out about and took her
out for a drink to get to know each other! And then, as if talking about the
weather, he calmly answered: “Yes, I was on a date”. I couldn't believe what my
crush was saying; I was crashed! When my mouth dropped open he smiled cheekily
and said “Well baby, I don’t think we ever said this was exclusive”. While for
me the idea of dating someone else while I was with him felt like trying to
breath under deep water, for Chris it seemed perfectly normal! That was it,
even though my crush had crashed me, he had also slapped me back to reality.
I got up, gathered myself and calmly but sternly told him “I appreciate your
honesty, but please get up from my couch and get the fuck out of my house”; and
then of course I smiled, I had to play it perfectly! He looked at me in shock;
I don’t think any woman has kicked his pretty face out of the house before, but
I wasn't going to take it!
Well, after Chris left, I told my story to my
friends who gave me a mixture of reactions. A couple of them burst out laughing
at what had happened (which I had to admit was funny!) but the rest were in
shock. Javier, always calm and collected shrugged and said “Well it’s a good
thing you kicked him out” But then laughed and said “Well he has the looks to
pull off that attitude!” I must say Javier left me wondering: “Do we get
excited too soon with first dates because the guys know exactly what to say to
make us fall for their bullshit? And if so, if we act like teenagers and have
crushes every now and then, how careful should we be before we actually
consider seriously dating someone?... How well do we ever know the men we go
out with?” I couldn't have known that Chris was going to turn out to be a
playboy, or I wouldn't go out with him, and I’m sure many of you found out
things about your crushes that made you regret going out with them. When is it too
soon to get excited? And of course, what are the deal breakers? For me dating
multiple women at once definitely was a deal breaker! I never stopped to think
twice about kicking his gorgeous green eyes out of my house. I knew that respect
was something that I expected, and neither his pretty face, firm ass nor green
eyes could buy it off!
So ladies,
it’s healthy to have a crush every now and then, to have butterflies in your
stomach, to have your heart skip a bit, but try not to get excited too soon,
because speaking from experience… if he seems too good to be true, he probably
is!!
Comment and tell me your experiences and if
you ever had a crush that ended badly! Also, did anyone of you find that Mr.
Perfect that has it all? I’m actually really curious! Don't forget to like my facebook page and tell me what you think: https://www.facebook.com/newcitygirlondating?ref=ts&fref=ts
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